One of the challenges of dating in today’s world is that the rules of courtship have changed. Some of those changes are good, some …. not so much. Here’s a quick reminder of a few rules to follow based on common mistakes women make when dating.
1. Mistaking powerful for masculine – Women tell me that men are intimidated by them because they’re powerful. Not true. There’s a difference between being powerful and being masculine. Healthy men love powerful, confident women. Leave your masculine side at work.
2. Taking the lead –One of the rules that should not change is letting the man lead during the courting process. Men are programmed to hunt – let them come get you. Parity and partnership come later.
3. Giving too much information – We so very much want to be known, sometimes we rush to tell our suitor more than is appropriate at the time. In the early days of dating, the focus should be on having fun. Ease into knowing each other.
4. Going too fast – One of quickest ways to sabotage your relationship is to have sex too soon and spend too much time together. You have to give your relationship the opportunity to blossom.
5. Taking losses personally – Just because he says “No” to being with you for the rest of his life, that doesn’t mean you’re not lovable. Dating is a numbers game. Go read the book He’s Just Not That Into You, and repeat after me: “Next!”
6. Not being the chooser – When we’re yearning for love, we desperately want to be chosen. Turn the tables; let the man prove his worthiness to you.
7. Not being able to receive –As much as we want to be loved, many women push that love away as soon as it gets too close. We’re more afraid of love than we want to admit.
For a more detailed explanation of these issues, I invite you to listen to my interview on Two Women Talk. http://www.twowomentalk.com/podcast-17.htm. For more information on me and my services, go to PfCoaching.com.
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